Here are some tweaks I am thinking about making to the practice moving forward:
I want to have more unique conversations with people. Most interactions involve the participant asking why I do this, and I give the same-ish answer every time. And the conversations I have with people usually cover topics that branch off from my explanation of why I do this. Both of these these facts are to be expected. However, there are two aspects of these conversations I'd like to change:
- To have the answer for "why do you do this?" be more clearly articulated. I'll probably write a Why? post in which I polish up that response.
- To do a better job of engaging participants. I want to take more an authentic interest in them and learn about them. This feels like small talk practice, but I want it to be different because I want to actively engage with the other person, to be excited to have the conversation instead of seeing it as an annoying drag. I think asking them questions (that I actually care to hear the answers to) is the way to do this. Questions like:
- Why did you agree to do this?
- Have you ever done anything like this before?
- What is your experience making eye contact with people? Do you do it often? Do you enjoy it?
- How did this experience make you feel?
I want to push myself to approach people in more unusual interaction scenarios, where I suspect the likelihood of rejection is higher.
My to-do list includes:
- bus stop
- table of 2 at a bar
- table of 3 at a bar
- table of 4 at a bar
- people in my office (never introduced, and already introduced)
- street corner (while waiting to cross street)
- someone who's in the middle of walking somewhere
- someone waiting outside of restaurant to be seated
- someone hanging out in Little Tokyo plaza
- house party
- grocery store shopper
- motorcycle shop customer